In the beginning of planning, I wanted a simple wedding. Then my ideas got more lavish. Then they pared down. Now they just feel - - - empty. I talked with Bernhardt about this and he made me feel better - he says I've been "keeping up with the Jones' and that is getting [me] down". Funny...he's right.
It's amazing how women can compare themselves to others. I've found that I don't like bridal magazines or other "bridey" things because I feel low key, but I also feel this strange pull about a budget. Our budget is small. And I like that's it's small and very DIY...but in the world of weddings, everything out there is so BIG and American...and I start comparing myself to the bride books and to the other weddings going on around me...and then I start feeling like I need to be in step...I need to run to keep up...I don't necessarily need centerpieces for the reception tables...but I start to need more of everything else. I need to be "the best" and it simply shouldn't be about that.
It's time for me to mentally regroup and ask myself this question: What is a wedding?
I believe it is a celebration of love. Pure and simple.
And in that case...all I need is Bernhardt.
Nothing else.
4 comments:
stace - you've got it right. and everything will be wonderful.
i always thought of our wedding as the time when m. and i were to become a family. and, to us, we didn't need a lot of hoopla for that to occur in a beautiful way.
I like it. You're totally right.
Today, Bern and I had an engagement party alone at a nice diner on the Mag Mile (if you're ever in town, it's on top of the Bloomie's building)...we had a party for two and went to the MCA and it was perfect. I'm going to keep with this theme of simple special.
Stacy, your blog calms my nerves so much. I don't even have an engagement yet and I've been swept up into this never-never-land of what type of favors and center pieces are needed. I love reading your quirky blog and your true thoughts spread out on the page about keeping it simple. It inspires me to remain true to my own DIY but simple and focused wedding eventually. I know that Claire may be able to bake her own cake and plan an amazing wedding in 2 weeks...but who can hold a candle to the amazing Claire? It was so great to have met you when I was in Chicago....keep writing. I do enjoy it.
f the joneses. you got it goin on, stacy.
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